Today I am going to present a new tool that usually teach my patients, and that I consider invaluable for life in general. It’s the emotional current account. This tool is designed to maintain an adequate flow of emotional capital with the people who really matter to us, and thus increase the respective levels of self-esteem.It is relatively easy to apply, but to take the maximum advantage, is fundamental to understanding their mechanism of action. There are multiple ways to define people and one of them, it is divided into active and reactive. Reactive people, are those that are always limited to reacting to other people or events in your life: If this person does not speak me, sadden me. If smile me, I’m happy. Francesca Segal oftentimes addresses this issue. If makes bad day, I’m sad, etc. They are people who cede their power to others, and are trapped by the basic belief of as long as I want, where to sign; Depending on excessive and submissively, of the environment and circumstances.
Such people have a self-esteem very diminished, looking for others who are not able to give themselves. Sometimes achivement acceptance, other recognition or affection, but always, their conduct will show their love towards themselves, tanks are completely empty. Such claimant behaviour, wrapped them in a more or less diffuse suffering; But what usually do not perceive, is that parallel to that suffering, is it generates in them, a Department of resentment. The resentment is created, to oblige the effort continued to respond to the desire of the other, and that generates, tacita a tacita, the corresponding misgiving. Misgiving, that tends to explode at the most inopportune moment; leaving them confused, dejected and guilty, which in turn, returns to launch the mechanism of submission. On the contrary, active people are those that make things happen.